5. Ability to trust- One of the most profound implications of a betrayal is the shattering of trust. After we’ve been betrayed, we don’t trust in others and we hardly trust ourselves. We question ourselves asking: “How did I not know this?” “How could I be so blind?” “How did I not see this coming?” When we don’t trust ourselves, we don’t trust our decisions or our own judgment. This makes it challenging to know if we’re making healthy or unhealthy business decisions. We also lose our trust in others so we’re afraid to be a team player, do joint venture and collaborative projects as we question: “If the person I trusted the most proved untrustworthy, how can I trust someone I don’t know nearly as well?”
6. Beliefs- Your belief system is formed by the repetition of something someone said enough times that you eventually believed it. It doesn’t make it right, it doesn’t make it true, but it makes it your belief. If you’ve been betrayed, the spoken or unspoken message often leaves us with the belief that we’re not valued enough, capable enough, lovable enough…just plain, enough. Since we have between 60,000 to 80,000 thoughts per day with approximately 80% of those thoughts being negative, imagine how a negative belief system is affecting you. From the thoughts you think to the actions you take if you’re belief system has you feeling you’re unworthy, undeserving, or lacking in some way, how is that impacting the way you speak with prospects or the way you’re getting your message out to others?
7. Finances- When you add up all of the ways an unhealed betrayal impacts you physically, mentally, and emotionally, it’s easy to see how it affects just about every area of life. It impacts your performance, your ability to convey your message with conviction and confidence, the energy you have to convey that message, and ultimately, your finances. Sure, it may drive you to “show them” as you dive into your work in order to create financial abundance but when the soil that desire is birthed from is negative, the satisfaction is short-lived.