Here is the main difference between mentors and femtors. While you may identify a person to be a mentor or femtor, the reality is, THEY PICK YOU. That’s correct, a mentor or a femtor is someone who picks you and whose role it is to be accessible to you and to provide you access. By description and definition, these are experienced men and women who seek out ways to teach you, share their wisdom with you, and help lift you up ~ to find your wings, so to speak, in order for you to soar higher. I will tell you this, mentors and femtors are typically positive people. It takes a positive person to give of himself or herself to help another learn, grow and succeed.
Do you have a mentor or femtor? Who is it and how do they help you? Comment below..
It does take a special person to see in you someone for whom they are willing to risk their reputations. How so, you might ask? Well, they have decided to provide you access to information, to their resources, and to people in their network. Yоur mеntоr or femtor is likеlу tо hаvе аn еxtеnsivе nеtwоrk аnd саn оffеr уоu ассеss tо fаr mоrе resources thаn уоu currently hаvе. That, as you can imagine, is no small commitment. Without a doubt, mentors and femtors are the catalysts who move you from one phase of your business to the next.
For the record, I simply want to acknowledge that many corporations have a “Mentoring” programs where there is an actual process in place where the company analyzes it’s “bench strength” and establishes a succession planning system. Future leaders are given a variety of experiences, supported by mentors and femtors, in order to prepare them for the next stage in your career plan. This is an amazing process! As entrepreneurs, we are responsible for creating our own “informal” mentoring and femtoring system.
Here is an easy way to determine if you do. Let me ask you a few questions. Keep track of whether you answer yes or no to the following four questions.
If you answered “no” to a majority of these questions, then perhaps you should explore finding a mentor/femtor! Why? Because it’s important to learn new communication skills, expand your viewpoints, and consider new ways of approaching situations. And, as an entrepreneur, we don’t have the luxury of a boss to turn to for advice. Many of us are flying solo when it comes to having others above us to guide us or to provide access to new thinking. I just believe everybody needs a good, reliable sounding board, second opinion, and sometimes, emotional support.
Sadly, most people do a terrible job of asking for mentoring. They come off as desperate, awkward, or worst yet, irritating. The good news is, most successful people LOVE helping others. Let me share with you HOW to go about creating a mentoring and femtoring relationship.
Tell us one positive experience you've had with your mentor or femtor.